The Strategy of Style: Why We Hide or Choose to be Seen

Hello SunHeart Goddess Gals,

I’m in a number of Zoom Groups, and one of them is a Sophia group—the divine feminine. We are reading the Gospel of Mary Magdalene; we read just a few sentences in the study and then we take it into our own personal experiences and try to relate it as a woman in 2026. And here are the two sentences (or is it three sentences?) that were read today:

"When Mary had said this, she fell silent, since it was to this point that The Teacher had spoken with her.

(2) But Andrew answered and said to the brethren, 'Say what you wish to say about what she has said. I at least do not believe that The Teacher said this. For certainly these teachings are strange ideas.' 

(3) Peter answered and spoke concerning these same things. He questioned them about The Teacher: 'Did He really speak privately with a woman and not openly to us? Are we to turn all around and all listen to her? Did He prefer her to us?"

And when I heard these sentences in 2026, living in America with what’s happening with the pushback against women, I could feel in my belly (where all women do feel this) the broiling, boiling surge of energy that I always try to tamp down and reframe into energy that I can access for my creative tasks.

Today was a blog day for SunHeart Boho Clothing, which is my other business alongside Kristena West Art... and the blog today is going to start in a way I have never done: in a personal way.

Probably none of you know I wear two hats—one fashion and the other teacher. Since the ’90s, I've taught men’s and women’s groups on gender reconciliation and have been in private practice working with women on personal development and life coaching.

I’ve kept the two businesses completely separate, but I feel deeply that the time is now called for to integrate these two businesses. To empower women in a new way, and one through clothing, because clothing for women can be a form of armor, camouflage, or a persona we wear.

If we’re unconscious about this, we can default to the "beige Gap look" in older or elder life. I was born in the late '50s and grew up through the '60s hearing of women’s empowerment and the women's movement, and this went in deep, even if I was very young.

So, I grew up in the seventies and clothing and fashion were my absolute passions. I have built SunHeart Boho Clothing. We have gone through the boom of the online years, and then we got hit with the pandemic. Through that time, I had a health crisis and am reframing my life back to empowering women, teaching art, and healing...and fashion.

I think that it’s time for women, in all walks of our lives, to bring who we really are and speak up together. This is how I’m doing it.

So, this week’s blog is about how clothing can hide us. Which can be a very good strategy. And I said hide—H-I-D-E—hide us so we become invisible, which can be a life-saving strategy. We can use clothing to call attention to ourselves; we can use clothing to be a project professionalism, and we can use clothing to attract or deflect from ourselves.

So the question this week is: when you look at your wardrobe, what is your construct? What is your projection? What is the model or idea that you want people to get from your wardrobe when they see you? And what would you like to change? Shapeshift?